1. The biggest thing to remember is to prepare them. Make sure you talk to your kids about the move at least a month in advance. Let them know why you’re moving. Ask them about their feelings so that you know their concerns, uncertainties, and fears. Give them time to adjust to the idea. Let them put together a scrapbook of the home you’re leaving, taking photos of the house, their friends, a favorite neighborhood hangout. Relocating can be a fun adventure if they know what’s going on, and don’t feel apprehensive.
2. Involve your kids in the moving process. When adults make major, life-changing decisions, kids often feel overcome by fear, anger or anxiety. They are paralyzed by the lack of influence they have over their own lives. So give them some measure of control. Ask for their feedback on the homes you’re looking at. Let them know that you value their opinions. Let them pick out their new rooms or pack up their stuff. If they’re older, give them the chance to decorate their new space.
3. Be positive and reassuring. Most kids are concerned about losing old friends, and the uncertainty of making new friends. Assure them that they will not lose their old friends. Encourage them to exchange addresses, phone numbers and email. With Facebook, Instagram and the like, there are many ways for kids to remain in close contact with old friends.
4. Visit your new community. If possible, give yourself some time for your children to explore their new home and neighborhood. Check out local parks and shops. Visit the local pool or community center and other places your child might like. If you live far away but you’ve got pictures of the new place and neighborhood, share them with your kids.
5. Meet the kids on your new block. If possible, try to meet other families with children who live on your street or nearby. Teach the kids how to introduce themselves. Get them involved in activities that will help them make friends, such as summer camps and play groups.
6. Purge before packing. But make sure you get the kids involved. Let them know that moving is a great time to figure out what things do not need to accompany you to the new home. Reassure them that you don't want to toss everything, however, there are items they’ve outgrown (clothes, toys or games) that can be sold or donated.
7. Keep their favorite toys and comfort items close by. Pack your child’s beloved items in easily accessible places. Though you may be tempted to get rid of a ratty blanket or stuffed animal, don’t do it now if it’s something your child treasures.
8. Get school squared away. Particularly if it’s the middle of the school year, do what you can to make your child’s transition comfortable. Take them to see their new school, and maybe meet their new teachers. Make sure you get the school calendar so you know what events are coming up.
9. Make sure there’s time to say goodbye. Plan a going-away party, or go out to your favorite local restaurant with your family and close relatives and friends. Depending on the distance of your move, talk to the parents of your children's friends about planning a weekend visit or meeting somewhere halfway for a day visit.
10. Stick to a schedule. Keep whatever routines you have if possible. From breakfast to bedtime, kids like to know that some things never change. Make sure Pancake Sundays continue. Maintain bedtime rituals. (And put their favorite sheets and blankets on their beds!)
Moving into your Buffington home should be a new and exciting experience for the entire family!
